Lately, I’ve been intentionally doing things that involve pushing outside my comfort zone. More specifically, I’ve been taking actions that make me feel a little vulnerable. As some might say, I’ve been trying to just ‘put myself out there’ and see what happens.
Why am I doing this? Well, the big answer is because I’ve realised that to consistently find opportunities to do the work I love, I’ll sometimes need to do things that feel a little bit scary or uncomfortable.
The more immediate reason is that I’m running a kind of personal ‘experiment’ to see what reaction I get from my inner critic. Or to be more accurate, my inner critics (as in plural, because there are quite a few of them. Perhaps the subject of another post…)
Given this, it was perhaps inevitable that after hearing Andy Molinsky’s interview on HBR IdeaCast about his book “Reach”, I quickly found myself hovering over the ‘Buy now with 1-click’ button on Amazon. And then devouring the book in a single day. And then highlighting a whole bunch of bits. And then talking about it with my clients the next day.
It isn’t often that I read a book about psychology or human behaviour that feels so immediately accessible and relevant – but this was one of them. As well as describing some of my own personal experiences, Molinsky’s descriptions and examples aligned closely with the recurring themes I see in my leadership development and coaching practice.
Now as a nerdy, research-driven psychologist I often spend whatever free time I have devouring podcasts and books about psychology, leadership, and behavioural change. This fuels my love of learning strength in a big way. But I also know that from a very practical standpoint, many of the leaders I work with find very little time to dig into these ideas.
So here I am, summarising what I feel are the most valuable insights from the book “Reach: How to Build Confidence and Step Outside Your Comfort Zone”.